Tyler Clementi

I planned to post a mea culpa tonight about why DD 31 isn't finished yet and how it'll be posted this weekend. Instead, I find myself thinking about how the stuff in my life that has kept me from fulfilling my commitment, stuff that seems so important sometimes, is so inconsequential compared to what some deal with.

http://gawker.com/5651050/how-a-college-kid-livestreamed-his-roommate-having-gay-sex-possibly-causing-a-suicide

http://gawker.com/5652378/whats-it-like-to-be-a-gay-teen

My heart is with the parents and family of Tyler Clementi as they mourn his loss and deal with the knowledge that this was so unnecessary. Two heartless individuals started out with a thoughtless invasion of Tyler's privacy and then perpetrated the unconscionable act of posting a private, intimate encounter online. It ended with a beautiful young man deciding to take his own life. It doesn't matter if they now understand the impact of their actions. It's too late to take it back. It's too late for Tyler.

If you are a gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, queer or questioning teenager, please know that there are so many people who love and support you. The teen years are awful for almost everyone - yeah, even the beautiful ones, who seem to have the athletics and the confidence and a hundred other things going for them. I know many gay teens have even more to deal with than many of their straight friends. If you're out, slurs and harassment may be your life. If you're not, fear of discovery can terrify you. Maybe you don't know anyone else who's gay. I know sometimes it feels like these years of your life will never end. If you feel alone, if you feel you have no one to talk to, please know that you do not have to go through this alone.

The Trevor Project is an organization that provides free, confidential support to LGBTQ teens and youth to age 24. By calling their LifeLine, you can speak to a counselor 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Call 866-488-7386, or 866-4-U-TREVOR. If you don't have access to a telephone or are hearing-impaired, you can visit their website to chat live with a volunteer. These services are free anywhere in the United States.

In Canada, Kids Help Phone provides free and confidential support in English and French to all young people and teens in Canada. I have vetted them and they are gay friendly. You can contact them at 800-668-6868 to speak directly to a counsellor (24/7) or on their website, where they have an "Ask Us Online" section. Also, they have a "leave site quickly" button in the top right of every single page - clicking it will immediately redirect you to google.ca.

A few words about safety if you are not out:

-If you visit the Trevor Project website, please clear your browser history afterward. This is especially important if your parents, siblings or friends might view your browser history.

-All phone numbers are recorded and reported on your cell phone bill, even toll-free numbers. This is something to consider if your parents pay (or will see) the bill for your cell.

-However, landline phone bills seldom record calls to toll-free numbers.

We - the greater community of LGBTQ men and women and straight allies - love you. We want to help you get through the dark days, because we want you to be around to see the beautiful times to come. And they will come, darlings.

Much love and hugs and support to you all.

xoxo Katie Starfish

Saturday Attempt to Redeem Myself: Pwned and Phoned

Colour me sheepish. I missed Saturday Jackspiration last week, Jacey Thursday a couple of days ago and now we're back to Saturday Jackspiration. I have an excuse - whether or not you accept it is up to you. The Spork story I'm writing now is PWNING MY LIFE. I am loving it, and at the same time I've never, ever written something that challenged me so much.

Soooo, while I seriously don't have it in me to come up with something witty to redeem myself, I think perhaps I have a couple of things up my sleeve.











There we go. A little something for everyone. :) I lubs you all.
xoxo Katie

Jack & Jacey 4-EVAH!!!, the Twibbon

In an act of absolute silliness, I created a Jack & Jacey Twibbon. I know there are lots of serious Twibbons out there (and I'm usually a NOH8 twibbon user) but if you're interested in adding it, here is the link.

There! Right There!

This is, literally, the best youtube video I've ever seen. The person who edited these clips with this song, is a motherfucking genius. Enjoy the Zachary Quinto, Chris Pine and the rest of the Trek reboot crew.

Jacey Thursday: Poetry in Motion

Okay, I swear I am not just phoning it in now - I can't NOT share this with you. It is sooooo delicious and just...GAH.

Enjoy. :)

Saturday Jackspiration: Summer's Swan Song

I can no longer avoid the truth: the summer is waning. Only one or two beach-worthy days left, at least where I am. I was at the beach a lot this summer, and I never saw anything like this...











I don't know what he was filming, but whatever it is, I am down.

Jacey Thursday: Jizz on the Keyboard

This may be the least coherent Jacey Thursday write-up I've ever done; but when you see the video I just watched, you'll understand. COMPLETELY.

I welcome the lovely scattered21 to set up the video:

Here's the (RL) Jacey video--turn off the sound, wait for the video to automatically come up, and then click up in the right corner of the screen in the white tool bar to find the full-screen prompt--it's a small red square. Otherwise you miss half of his face. After the brief travelogue, he's only in the first 2 minutes--no more Jacey Elthalion after the little angel with the blond hair appears, so you can exit and rewatch. (no limits on that activity ;-) )

IMHO, it's a very bewitching two minutes.

And now for the magic link:

http://www.soliver.com/en/#/en/fashion/casual/makingOf

Did you see the nuzzles? OH MY GOD, THE NUZZLES.

Saturday Jackspiration: What If...?

Added to my cache of HCav pics this week and have some new beauties to share with you all! This week's theme: What If...?


What if Jack, not Jacey, was the young pup in Deep Dish?


What if Jack, not Jacey, was the Texan?


What if Jack was a photographer...


...or a professor...


...or a paramedic?


What if he could melt off your clothing at will, solely with his intense stare?

Jacey Thursday: Baby, It's (Going to Be) Cold Outside

Soooooo, our Jacey is on his way to Chicago, and I think he's going to need some warmer clothes, don't you?

Here are a couple of lovely fall outfits.





He might like to try downhill skiing, and he's going to need something cozy and warm. For rolling around in the snow.





A nice warm hat is key when winter winds blow.



Um, maybe not (but OH MY GOOOOODDDDDDDD, THE EYES! THE LIPS!!!! )

Ahhhh. This is better.